In trying to help H. rebuild/restart a life that doesn't include addiction and homelessness, I'm realizing just how challenging doing that is for the people in that situation. Honestly, if H. didn't have family support, he would be back on the streets and most likely return to addiction. It's unfathomable to me how people without support claw their way back - it would be very difficult.
He needs to get a Texas ID card - but to do that he needs a social security card. He can't get a replacement social security card without having a valid state ID. Do you see the conundrum here?
I ordered official birth certificates for him - had to head to Wells Fargo earlier this week to get the requests notarized. Then J. had to scan all the documents into a pdf to attach to an email. I have to say the response from the Alameda County Clerk/Recorder were very fast - and this morning, the certified copies arrived via Fed Ex overnight. Just under $100 for two documents. Grateful for a relatively easy process that didn't take too long. The website said that mailing the documents US mail will cause delays so faxing or attaching was the way to go. We don't have a landline - something I forget when I ask J. to fax something. Anyway - I have the docs in hand - and will talk to H. about where he will keep them and how will he ensure they don't get lost. Every ID he had got lost. Passport, license, social security card (which was also a replacement card). He has nothing - not a single thing that confirms who he is. He needs ID to get work. Highest priority.
We had a freak snow storm on Monday night/early Tuesday morning and awoke to enough snow on the ground that J.'s golf was cancelled. We are ready for winter to move on. Really. Please.
Monday's cat grooming appointment was a success. They have new haircuts, clean ears and eyes and trimmed claws. They didn't cry much on the way home - think they realized 'yay, they came back for us and now we're heading home'. Just like us, home is where they most want to be. They are a little chilly with less fur so they are both hiding out in unusual places. Nala is using Chloe's 'dome bed' (she has been for a while) and this morning, Muf was hiding under some blankets in the guest bedroom closet. New for her but she can snuggle in the blankets and get pretty toasty.
Today is my first 'commitment free' day in a while and other than being the drink lady for J.'s foursome (Thursday is his Silver Oak golf day and we always offer his foursome beverage service and ice for coolers) it's a low key day.
I'm looking forward to Atlantis this weekend. I stupidly played a bit at a casino in Carson that I always regret playing at - told J. 'it is totally OK next time I say I want to play there to remind me how much it ALWAYS sucks'. He said 'we are creating quite a list of places that suck' and he's not wrong about that. I know Atlantis. I know the machines. I have basic concepts of what might work far more at Atlantis than any other place and I need to remind myself of that vigorously 'cuz seriously, losing is NO FUN. LOL. It really isn't.
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