I know this time of year is always nuts and this year is a real doozy. Where do I start....
First, the home front.
I didn't comment much about a lot of drama we've had at Casa Majah post-cruise. Our son allowed people to stay here for days at a time - people we didn't know and didn't give permission to have sleep over. There was evidence everywhere that people lived here - the first significant sign was the missing bag of Chloe's prescription dog food that some dog we don't own ate. Nothing in the food that would hurt a dog - low carb so low grain - which is why it's super expensive. We had just purchased a new bag before we left and it was gone when we returned home. A guy who stayed over and brought his dog? That was the story. (I still don't know the full story but hope to figure it out someday).
There was evidence of red hair dye in my bathroom along with long black hairs with red tips in my hairbrush. Who uses someones hairbrush? I wouldn't use my best friend's hairbrush - or maybe I would AFTER I'd asked permission.
Or at least been introduced to the person. So angry at H. that I basically didn't speak to him for a week. Just pretended he wasn't here. He technically was told to leave and he did. Spent one night with a friend and the next night in a motel - which overdrew his checking account. How did he think he'd afford a hotel night after night? We compromised by me insisting he was no longer living here while allowing him to sleep here.
Yeah. That's still the status. Only somewhere in all the drama, we also got him to finally acknowledge what we've suspected for some time: he's in a relationship with someone - and she's technically still married. Separated and their physical relationship apparently didn't start until that point? But yes, she's married, two kids and older. The same age difference as J. and I only H. is only 24 which makes her mid 30ish. This revelation led to us meeting her (finally) and we're pretty deep into the 'getting to know you stage'.
It's going fine. We had a nice 'family' dinner (out - we went to Strings) on Sunday - easy conversation and it was a nice time.
Then we discovered two of our credit cards were missing (or someone took down the info from them) 'cuz we had three separate credit charges on two different accounts (seldom used accounts we don't even carry the cards for much) a week a part. Which had us feeling violated all over again.
I'm trying to impress upon H. that it's not that this friend is unwelcome - but in the absence of knowing her and him asking permission to have her be in our home often, sometimes overnight, him allowing people to bunk here (whether we're here or not) is wrong. This is our home. Not his. He sleeps here but this property is not owned by him. He has no rights in deciding who is here and when. And him presuming he could make this home a flop house the week we were on our cruise was so incredibly wrong of him.
I think he's starting to get that. And I sure hope so 'cuz we just booked another cruise - to the Virgin Islands and Nassau in March, 2018 out of Miami. And since we're traveling all the way to Florida to catch the ship, we're spending a week at Disneyworld, too!! I can't wait! I'm already planning to make a cruise payment monthly so it will be paid off in six months and then start paying on the Disney trip, too - with a little careful budgeting, I can pay for those over time without dipping into 'long term' savings. I love a challenge so we'll see how successful I'll be at my goal. I got a decent raise so it should be do-able.
Work is super busy and crazy and sort of madly fun. We're all at the same exact place - it's the end of the year and we're frantically trying to get everything wrapped up. I haven't started on anything even remotely 'build next year's budget' related - or rolling positions forward into the next year and all the things that go with getting things set up for yet another year while trying to wrap up the current one. It's a zoo - and it's ALL my circus and my monkeys.
I'll keep trying to remind myself of the 'madly fun' description over the next eight weeks.
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